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Death and Dying

To Live Until We Say Good-Bye

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, whose books on death and dying have sold in the millions, now offers an extraordinary visual record of her work. Through the brilliant photographs of Mal Warshaw, "To Live Until We Say Good-Bye" gives a gripping, intimate view of Dr. Kubler-Ross's counseling work with terminally ill patients as she brings them to an acceptance of death.

Recognizing Spiritual Needs in People Who Are Dying

Rachel Stanworth

This book aims to clarify current thinking about the spirituality of terminally ill patients to ensure greater compassion and sensitivity in meeting their spiritual needs. Listening carefully to patients at the end of life is at the heart of good palliative care and this book provides a means of recognizing and talking about spiritual needs even when religious language is not used. The author refers to this as a "language of spirit." The book is based on interviews with patients who are dying and the language they use to describe their experiences. It deals with death, dying, the experiences of patients and the relief of spiritual pain by looking closely at patient stories, drawings and behavior.

The Denial of Death

Ernest Becker

Winner of the Pulitzer prize in 1974 and the culmination of a life's work, The Denial of Death is Ernest Becker's brilliant and impassioned answer to the "why" of human existence. In bold contrast to the predominant Freudian school of thought, Becker tackles the problem of the vital lie -- man's refusal to acknowledge his own mortality. In doing so, he sheds new light on the nature of humanity and issues a call to life and its living that still resonates more than twenty years after its writing.

Peaceful Dying: The Step-by-step Guide To Preserving Your Dignity, Your Choice, And Your Inner Peace At The End Of Life

Daniel R. Tobin

A physical, psychological, and spiritual transition that can bring with it the potential for great personal growth and family closeness, dying requires special care and understanding. Peaceful Dying, based on the FairCare program founded by Dr. Dan Tobin, presents a 26-step program designed to return control and peace to those who have entered this stage of life and to help all involved—the dying, their families, and health-care providers alike—appreciate the challenges dying presents. From addressing such formal concerns as creating a living will and pain relief to finding forgiveness, love, and peace of mind, this compassionate and empowering guide will ease our natural anxieties about the end of life, turning this fearful prospect into a fulfilling legacy.

Life Worth Living: How Someone You Love Can Still Enjoy Life in a Nursing Home - The Eden Alternative in Action

William H. Thomas

The grassroots handbook for Edenizing nursing homes.

The Good Death: The New American Search to Reshape the End of Life

Marilyn Webb

Modern medical technology has lengthened our lives and forever altered how we face our deaths--but it has also created painful dilemmas that lawyers, doctors, spiritual leaders, and, above all, patients and their families are struggling with every day. Now, in this sweeping yet intimate report on death in America, Marilyn Webb has written the one essential book we all need to understand and deal with these new realities.

Drawing on more than four years of first-hand research and observation, Webb combines a journalist's objectivity with a passionate advocacy for people in pain. She has sat with dozens of dying patients--in high-tech teaching hospitals, in hospices, and in their homes. She has interviewed and worked with the leading legal experts and medical ethicists, pain specialists and psychologists, priests and spiritual counselors, as well as both advocates of assisted suicide and their determined opponents.

Dying Well

Ira Byock, MD

Nobody should have to die in pain. Nobody should have to die alone. This is Ira Byock's dream, and he is dedicating his life to making it come true. Dying Well brings us to the homes and bedsides of families with whom Dr. Byock has worked, telling stories of love and reconciliation in the face of tragedy, pain, and conflict. It is a companion for families, showing them how to deal with doctors, talk to loved ones—and make the end of life as meaningful and enriching as the beginning.

Graceful Exits: How Great Beings Die (Death stories of Hindu, Tibetan Buddhist, and Zen masters)

Sushila Blackman

Death is a subject obscured by fear and denial. When we do think of dying, we are more often concerned with how to avoid the pain and suffering that may accompany our death than we are with really confronting the meaning of death and how to approach it. Sushila Blackman places death—and life—in a truer perspective, by telling us of others who have left this world with dignity. 

Graceful Exits offers valuable guidance in the form of 108 stories recounting the ways in which Hindu, Tibetan Buddhist, and Zen masters, both ancient and modern, have confronted their own deaths. By directly presenting the grace, clarity, and even humor with which great spiritual teachers have met the end of their days, Blackman provides inspiration and nourishment to anyone truly concerned with the fundamental issues of life and death.

Rethinking Life and Death: The Collapse of Our Traditional Ethics

Peter Singer

The new commandments according to Rethinking Life and Death. 

  • If you must take human life, take responsibility for the consequences of your decisions.
  • All human life is not of equal worth; treat beings in accordance to the ethical situation at hand.
  • Respect a person's desire to live or die.

A profound and provocative work, Rethinking Life and Death, in the tradition of Aldous Huxley's Brave New World, examines the ethical dilemmas that confront us as we near the twenty-first century.

The Dying Time: Practical Wisdom for the Dying & Their Caregivers

Joan Furman

Here is a comprehensive and thorough handbook for the dying and their caregivers. Joan Furman and David McNabb walk the reader through the dying time, providing details on how to make the environment conducive to peace and tranquillity, give physical care, understand and respond to the emotional and spiritual crises that naturally occur, and stay healthy as a caregiver. They answer with honesty and sensitivity the questions most frequently asked, such as what actually happens at the time of death. The book also deals with arranging for a meaningful memorial service and handling grief for those who are left behind. And it offers guided imagery for coping with pain and suggests literature and music to ease the passage of those whose health is irreversibly failing.

Coming Home: A Guide to Dying at Home with Dignity

Deborah Duda

Today in ever increasing numbers, terminally ill people are choosing to spend their last days at home, in the warmth of familiar surroundings rather than in the cold, impersonal sterility of a hospital or nursing home. With skyrocketing hospital and nursing home costs, sometimes there is no choice. If you, or a loved one is faced with this situation, here is an information source to support and assist your efforts and knowledge to ease the path of the terminally ill to a peaceful conclusion. In "Coming Home" Deborah Duda answers many poignant questions with sensitivity, compassion, and knowledge born of her first-hand experience. Detailed diagrams support an active understanding of the specific techniques described. In clear, easy to understand language, she outlines how to make the final weeks as comfortable and meaningful as possible, encouraging the dying person to live fully, until the moment of death.

Handbook for Mortals: Guidance for People Facing Serious Illness

Joanne Lynn, MD, Joan Harrold, MD, Janice Lynch Schuster

Handbook for Mortals is warmly addressed to all those who wish to approach the final years of life with greater awareness of what to expect and greater confidence about how to make the end of our lives a time for growth, comfort, and meaningful reflection. Written by Drs. Joanne Lynn and Joan Harrold and a variety of experts from nursing, hospice, counseling, and the arts, this book provides equal measures of practical information and gentle insight. Readers will learn what decisions they will need to face, where to look for help, how to ease pain and other symptoms, what to expect with specific diseases, and how the health-care system operates. Equally important to this practical information are the personal stories included here of how people have come to terms with dying, faced their fears, and made important choices.

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